date: Tue, 06 Nov 2001 08:30:00 GMT
subject: Casual Openers vs Routines
Which do you think is more effective: a casual opener (a short, situational question) or a routine (a madeup story or gimmick). Also, is one better for a club and the other better for street PUs.
For example, you walk up to the bus stop and an HB8.5 is standing there. What is going to lead ultimately to greater rapport or a greater close:
A. Saying something like, "Have you been waiting long?" or "Those boots are amazing. Where did you get them?"
B. Launching into a routine, like telling her you need to practice handwriting analysis for a class and then doing it on her. Or telling her you were having an argument with a friend about (spells, relationships, whatever), giving her the whole exciting story, and then eliciting her values.
Now, say you see an HB8.5 at a bar in a club. What do you go with, A (which is essentially leading with small talk) or B (which is throwing her into the excitement, but also runs the risk of making you seem "weird")?