date: Fri, 14 Feb 2006 12:35:00 GMT
subject: Should I neg a 6 / 7 that I've known for a while on msn but am meeting tomorow? ...basically, I meeting up with this chick I've been chatting with on MSN for a while. she's 18, is about a 6 or 7 in looks, has never had a boyfriend, is a virgin but is a cool chick that I wanna f. she has already mentioned on MSN that she wants me to kiss her and more etc...
this is interesting...
I recently finished reading Venutian Arts (excellent stuff) and if anyone can offer some guidance on how best to apply it to this situation it would be great...
basically, I meeting up with this chick I've been chatting with on MSN for a while. she's 18, is about a 6 or 7 in looks, has never had a boyfriend, is a virgin but is a cool chick that I wanna f. she has already mentioned on MSN that she wants me to kiss her and more etc. so I'm wondering a couple of things;
1. do i still start from A1 or should I start with Comfort as we know each other from MSN?
2. if i do start with A1, should I neg or not really givin the type of girl she is? i.e. not a 10
any other suggestions are welcome too
Do not neg this girl! If she is a 6 or a 7 at best, and she has already indicated that she wants you, then this is a no-brainer. If you neg a 6.5, you risk killing it. Just go with it, this one should be easy...but really, do not expect sex, if she is a virgin, she is not going to give it up to you unless you completely sweep her off her feet and that is a lot of work for a 6.5. And if she is a virgin and willing to give it up to you right away, then run! Something is wrong with her.
Teasing (or a tease-neg) can be useful to establish rapport. But stay away from the stronger negs used to open/disarm.
If you're already meeting her you do not need to set-up active disinterest. And, if she's a 6, a SOI will go much farther to establishing attraction.
Remember: As a PUA you want to be the exception to the rule.
(When interested: ) You neg girls who guys are afraid to offend, and you show attraction to girls who are used to being brushed over/negged/insulted by the world.
excellent advice guys!
maybe I'll really tone down the negs to something extrememly playful like "aww you're so cute - it's a shame you're too young for me" (with a smile) and then kiss her and move on to next activity (where going shopping and hanging out) and lil things like that? what do u think or just drop the negs totally?
I guess my aim shoudl be to continue to build some attraction by DHV etc., qualify her for example I know she doesnt drink which is something I'm attracted to about her and she has a great sense of humour so verbally or in some way let her know these thongs and others are making her attractive to me and then move into comfort and really build a strong comfort bond
am I on the right track guys??
thanks so much for your help
also, I also don't expect sex on the first date but I can see it possibly progressing to sex within the next 2-4 weeks but thanks for the tip regarding that
maybe I'll really tone down the negs to something extrememly playful like "aww you're so cute - it's a shame you're too young for me" (with a smile)
YES! EXACTLY! Drop the neg's once you get into actualy C1 (not eC1 I'm talking actually having spent time with her tangibly and physically and having ecalated to the point of C1.) Until that point, keep it playful but not common, in fact compliment her more than you neg her, there is no reason to lower her bitch shield, instead negs are to be used to telegraph sexual disinterest, NOT disinterest in her entirely. Stuff along the lines of: