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Losing My Inner Game

ivk: My fucking inner game is at a all time low for some reason. I went sarging yesterday after a pretty good friday night at some club. I couldn't open ONE fucking set all night! My inner game was shot. I didn't have the drive to do it, I just felt completely useless. It's fucking frustrating when that shit happens. I always try to go out and have a good time with friends and try not focusing on sarging like TD says, but god dammit it doesn't work out like that for me. I always think about girls, sex, and sarging them. It's on my mind all the time. It's hard to focus in some classes because all I'm thinking about is the number of girls in class that I can talk to. Like TD said, we all seek some sort of acceptance and I seriously can't go home feeling good without having one approach for the night that actually went good.

I was on a roll the past few months, just steam rolling motherfucking girls. I was unstoppable. You put me next to a "natural" friend of mine and I would make him look like a joke. I was able to pull 5-6 of the cutest to hottest girls in a club if I was having the right inner game. I just didn't give a fuck. I did what I had to do and I wasn't scared to do it.

After last night I really don't know what happened. Maybe it's one of those things where you have to hit the bottom in order to get back to the top. I don't know, I just get extremely frustrated. I learned some new techniques, better ways of building some attraction, and critiqued my game for the better.

I also think alcohol contributes to fucking up your inner game. You mentally become dependent on it. When I was on a roll I wasn't drinking any alcohol. Than I recently started drinking when I hit clubs up and it pretty much made me dependent on it again. I can go places and not drink and have a good time, but it seems alcohol makes you dependent on it in order to relax a little.

I really have to sit back and visualize where I want to go from here.

Style: I think this post is totally valid and on topic. I'm enjoying your tirade of harshness, Formhandle, because it's fun. But if I had posted some of MY first posts while this was going on, I probably would have been scared off and never joined the community.

That said, ivk, here's your answer:

So you had a bad night. It happens to all of us. Myself, Mystery, and every other guru: sometimes we go out and don't make any approaches. It just happens. We can't get in state, we don't feel comfortable, we're exhausted, we're at an emotional low, whatever. They're all excuses.

Here's the solution: go out tonight. Force yourself to make that first approach. Rather than building up a whole opener and routine in your head, just say, "I"m going to tell that girl I like her hairstyle, and then leave." Chances are if you have game, that generic compliment will actually open the set and you'll find yourself talking and you'll be in a good mood, and then you can sarge with proper game for the rest of the night.

The corollary to you're only as good as your last night out is... SO GO OUT AND HAVE A GOOD NIGHT.

ivk: Ya totally true, lol.

I need to re-work my inner game again and build the confidence I had before. But ya if I go out tonight I'm going to push my self to do the best I can possibly do.

Style, thanks for the advice, appreciate it. @2009 - The Ultimate Collection Of seduction Opener, Close Routines and Other seduction Tactics